There are approximately 450 fertility clinics in the United States and they are different on many levels: the medical protocols they deploy, levels of individual attention they provide, biases around single and multiple embryo transfer, lab quality, price, nature of the clinicians, and overall competency. Finding the right fit is ultimately a question of personal preference, but in the case of single and gay men looking to build their families, there are a few specific criteria worth considering.
One factor to consider is whether the clinic is prepared to help a single man, or gay couple, to have a child in the first place. The last time clinics were surveyed, in 2005, about their attitudes towards screening out patients, nearly half were “very or extremely likely” to turn down gay or single male parents. As to whether these clinics are now able to make all patients feel equally welcome is anyone’s guess.
Even if there isn’t outright discrimination at play, many clinics don’t appreciate how this process is unique for gay and single men, and that can make the experience all the more trying. You can read evaluations on different clinics, sorted by LGBT patients, at FertilityIQ.
Introducing the major decisions a gay couple or single man need to make to become fathers. We cover the costs of everyone involved (from egg donors, attorneys, gestational carriers, and more), an intro to finding an egg donor & surrogate or gestational carrier, how state laws differ for gay and single dads, pros and con of twins along with other specific medical decisions for gay and single fathers, and finding a clinic as a gay or single man.