How State Laws Differ for Single & Gay Dads

State Law & Legal Parenthood

When future parents have a child through surrogacy, they need to accomplish two goals: the first is to ensure the surrogate does not have rights as a parent to the child. The second is to ensure a partner who is not biologically related to the child can become recognized as a parent to the child. What dictates how easy or hard this is to accomplish is the state where the surrogate lives and gives birth.

Six states make this process incredibly easy, and selecting a surrogate who lives there is a good move. Those states are California, Connecticut, Delaware, Oregon, New Hampshire, Maine and Nevada. Here, paying a surrogate to carry a child is legal, and it’s easy to have both parents placed on the birth certificate a priori. Typically, surrogates who live in these states are able to command higher rates because there is a lower risk that they can complicate matters legally.

On the other hand, nobody pursuing surrogacy should consider doing so with a surrogate living in New York, New Jersey, Washington D.C., Washington State or Michigan. In these states, it is illegal to pay for a surrogate to carry a child, and so the intending parents have virtually no rights and are completely exposed should the surrogate want to keep the child.

In the other remaining states and territories, the rules can vary case-by-case, and county-by-county, with varying degrees of precedent and certainty. Surrogacy may be permitted, but ensuring the non-biological father can be readily recognized as a parent may be cumbersome.

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Surrogacy For Gay Dads: An Introduction

Introducing the major decisions a gay couple or single man need to make to become fathers. We cover the costs of everyone involved (from egg donors, attorneys, gestational carriers, and more), an intro to finding an egg donor & surrogate or gestational carrier, how state laws differ for gay and single dads, pros and con of twins along with other specific medical decisions for gay and single fathers, and finding a clinic as a gay or single man.